Updated: Apr 18
The truth is that with just a few simple steps, any guy can be Prince Charming! Read on to find out how right now!!
With the imminent launch of Disney’s new Cinderella movie, I figured it’s a great opportunity to remind everyone that prince charming doesn’t exist just in the movies. The truth is that with just a few simple steps, any guy can be prince charming!
Think about it, which gal wouldn’t like to be swept off her feet by a modern day prince charming??
So here it is, five simple steps to allow you to captivate and charm the inner princess in any woman.
Simple and effective yet almost lost in the way common sense is no longer common. It costs nothing to have good manners, but the rewards can be priceless.
Exhibit good manners at all times and you will stand out amongst the crowd like a diamond in the rough.
I find it shocking when I hear people demanding things instead of politely asking for things. Next time you visit a restaurant or shop in Singapore, pay attention and you’ll realize what I mean. People will say “give me a drink” or “give me a chicken rice”! This is unacceptable! Never forget the magic word, always say PLEASE!
Ask for things politely – “I’d like a drink please” or “may I have the chicken rice please”. And always say thank you after you receive a response, regardless of what the response may be.
But manners extend beyond simple conversation, it extends to little things like holding the door open for someone, holding the elevator door because you saw someone coming, not splashing water everywhere when you wash your hands, not picking your nose, not swearing – especially in front of children and families.
Don’t burp in public, cover your mouth when sneezing and coughing and say “excuse me” afterwards if you can’t help yourself.
If you’re on your way somewhere and would like to get past some people, the same applies, say “excuse me”, don’t just force your way through a crowd.
Finally, on this point, never forget that patience is a virtue. Don’t let frustrations and delays hinder your manners and mindfulness.
It is your job as a man to make sure chivalry is not dead!
Originating from the code of conduct that knights were expected to observe during the Middle Ages, it involves behaving honourably and politely towards women and your fellow man, regardless of social stature, race, creed and religion.
A simple thing like opening a door for a girl, drawing out the chair for your date to sit on at the dining table, offering your jacket when the weather gets cold and wet, holding an umbrella over her brow, returning her home safely, calling her to make sure she is okay, standing up for her honour, letting her go first, being truthful and keeping to your word, putting her needs before yours.
Never cross the line where chivalry becomes chauvinistic and gives the appearance that you think the fairer sex cannot do anything for themselves. But the find the right balance and you’ll be every gal’s knight in shining armour!
What kind of guy is Prince Charming that he can just go up to a beautiful woman and start a meaningful yet enjoyable conversation?
I’ll tell you what kind of guy; he’s a confident guy! He’s not arrogant, he doesn’t think he’s the best, he knows his own limitations, but he’s happy in his own skin. He likes who he is and doesn’t have anything to prove, and the moment you don’t have anything to prove, you are true to yourself and everyone around you.
Don’t make it your purpose to impress people, that’s not what being Prince Charming is about at all. Your purpose is to fill your life with a wealth of meaningful experiences and relationships. In doing so, you will become both independent and confident, qualities worthy of nobility.
No, I don’t mean you need to go and get yourself a PhD, I mean you should be knowledgeable about popular topics and issues. This could be anything from knowing what movies are coming out this week to what restaurant or bar has just opened in town, to even what topics are going viral on social media.
Travel when you can, broaden your horizons, spread your wings.
One uber easy way to keep yourself informed is to like the Huffington Post’s official Facebook page and the Yahoo News / Yahoo Singapore Facebook pages, thus turning your Facebook news feed into your one stop shop for everything you need to know about your friends as well as local and international goings on.
All this will not only make you more knowledgeable about the world you live in but also give you some conversational ammunition with which to charm those around you at parties and get-togethers.
The final piece of the Prince Charming puzzle is looking the part.
Now I definitely don’t mean you have to be good looking, you don’t need to be a model and you definitely don’t need to have a six-pack. You don’t want to look like you’re in love with yourself! You just need to make an effort and make the most of what you have, simple!
Way too many guys in Singapore have a weird extra long nail on their little finger. This is unacceptable!
Keep your nails clipped, facial hair trimmed, maintain good body hygiene, don’t overdo the cologne and wear good fitting clothes. It doesn’t matter whether you’re going to a supermarket or the Oscars after party; make this your mantra because you never know who you might bump into.
Regardless of whether you are obese or super skinny, good form fitting clothes will always make you look better. Don’t think wearing large baggy clothes to hide your bulgy belly will do you any favours, you will just look like you’re wearing baggy clothes to hide your bulgy belly!
However, if you’re wearing form-fitting clothes, it again shouts confidence and comfort in ones own skin (See Point 3).
When in doubt with changing fashion fads, go with the classics. A good fitting suit or blazer will make you look like a man of substance.
Don’t be afraid to mix it up, experiment with pocket squares, cuff links, shoes, belts, watches and pens.
Et voila! There you have it! With the final piece of the puzzle in place, you can now call yourself a true gentleman.
Welcome to the new and more charming you!
Dr. Bobby Stryker